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What We’re Pouring: June 18, 2014

Looking to try out, and hopefully praise, some of the beers brewed in our native York County, Pennsylvania, we trekked down Interstate 83 and North George Street to downtown York to check out Mudhook Brewing Co.’s brewpub. Situated just one block west of North George Street and nestled in a quiet corner on the backside of the Central Market House (along Cherry Lane off of Philadelphia Street), this locally owned brewpub serves its own line of craft beers ranging in tastes and styles alongside typical pub appetizers, sandwiches, salads, and soups.

So far, the brewery is not bottling its beers, although you can purchase a growler to take home. We asked the server if there were plans in the future to bottle and sell; he said, “It’s been talked about,” but that no such plans are currently in the works. Neither of us had been here before, so we were interested in giving all their beers a taste.

We each ordered a flight sampling of the six craft beers they were offering on draft that night. We drank them from lightest to darkest.

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Confessions of a guilt-ridden feminist

Fans of A Feminist Sensibility will notice my radio silence over the past two weeks. Without being overly specific, my professional life has taken a little detour down Route Crazy and I’ve been spending most of what little free time I have trying to cope with this new reality.

I’m not complaining, mind you. I love my career and I’m extremely passionate about what I do. However, no matter how professionally stimulating the last two weeks have been, I’ve spent most of my time feeling guilty.

Why guilty? Well, because I have been traveling and working long hours at my job, I have been neglecting other things, like housework, time with my husband, and obligations like writing for Curiata.com. Now, being the modern urban gentleman that he is, Mike has not said one word about the dismal state of disrepair of our house, and he has, in his own way and by his own definition, done his part to keep it “clean.” He also works in the same field as I do (politics), so he understands that until the state budget is signed into law, I’m stuck working late nights.

Thankfully, even though I work long hours during the week, the weekends are my own. However, this does nothing to help the guilt factor. Last weekend, the MUG and I took our dog for a nice, four-mile jaunt in a local park that has some decent hiking trails. Instead of getting a head start on my duty to my legions of readers, I chose to spend time with my family. While I don’t regret that decision, I do, nevertheless, feel guilty that I shirked that responsibility to myself, my colleagues, and all of you.

I feel guilty for a whole host of other reasons, too — even something as menial as not making enough time in my life for fitness. I’ve always expected great things from myself, including impeccable time management skills. My mother once said to me, “Carrie, no one in this world would be as critical of you as you are of yourself. You have to learn to be kinder to yourself and let things go.” She was and is right. But learning to let go and accept that I can’t do it all is something that I still, obviously, struggle with.

In her book Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead, the chief operating officer of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg, dedicates an entire chapter to the myth of having it all. Throughout the chapter, she regales us with stories about how she tries to balance a career and being a wife and mother. It’s stories like these that make me simultaneously feel better and worse about my frustrations. If someone like Sandberg has struggles, it’s acceptable that I do, too.

Then there’s that little voice inside my head that says, “but you don’t have kids yet … it’s only going to get worse.” And while that’s probably true, the fact remains that the childless and partnerless women in this world still struggle with the feeling of guilt. Women will either feel guilt because they don’t have a partner or children, or they’ll feel guilt because they are probably neglecting their partner and/or children in some way that is ruining their lives.

I could blame the media for inundating us with images that portray women who have it all. I could blame the advertising industry for telling us that if we just had X product, we’d be able to have it all. But in reality, while these things can influence us, they do not control us. Only I can control how I feel about things.

So from today forward, I invite all other women, whether they consider themselves feminist or not, to join me in resolving to be kinder to ourselves. I resolve to stop feeling guilty and beating myself up if I miss a workout, or dinner with my husband, or loading the dishwasher. I resolve to stop trying to “do it all” and will instead focus on “doing what I can.”

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World Cup madness will last; get up to speed

This article was written by guest contributor Steve Grassa.

Last night’s adrenaline-spiking victory by the United States men’s national team over Ghana in the 2014 FIFA World Cup seems to be registering far beyond the small-but-growing cadre of American soccer fans, but the byzantine structure of international association football can be a barrier to potential new fans of the sport. Let’s take a step back and set the scene for those of you who may want to tune in but are utterly confused by all the talk of group play, point systems, and knockout stages.

The 20th World Cup kicked off in Sao Paolo, Brazil, last Thursday. The host nation beat Croatia 3-1 to begin a month-long soccer spectacle gilded by the passionate flair of 32 diverse nations’ fan bases, set against the backdrop of some of Brazil’s most picturesque cities. A global audience in the hundreds of millions broke their four-year World Cup fast, tuning in to watch the opening match live.

FIFA (Federation Internationale de Football Association, or International Federation of Association Football) is the international governing body for soccer and the organizing force behind the World Cup tournament. FIFA’s 209 member associations spent the better part of two and a half years competing in qualifying tournaments organized by their respective confederations in a struggle to whittle the World Cup field down to 32. There are confederations in Europe, Africa, Asia, South America, North America, and Oceania. The North American Confederation (CONCACAF) includes Central American and Caribbean nations.

FIFA determines the number of entries each confederation may send to the tournament based on both the raw number and strength of the region’s teams. Each confederation then organizes a qualifying tournament that will produce the required number of entrants. There are usually four teams left over that must play further intercontinental playoffs to determine the last two World Cup bids.

FIFA also sets the dates on which qualifying matches are played. Since many international players make big bucks playing in the top European leagues, FIFA must be careful to respect the club season calendar. As a result, qualifying matches are spread across the calendar year. A team rarely plays more than two qualifiers in the same month, and international dates tend to fall earlier in the club season than later. This turns the qualifying process into a multi-year odyssey.

The club versus country tug-of-war is an ongoing topic of debate in soccer circles. No country wants to risk missing out on the World Cup, but the Manchester Uniteds and FC Barcelonas of the world don’t like their multi-million-Euro investments risking injury traveling to the far reaches of their continent to play qualifiers in sometimes-sketchy conditions. Imagine the uproar if the NBA had to take a weekend off every other month so LeBron James and Kobe Bryant could suit up for Team USA in vital Olympic qualifiers in Panama and Honduras. It is the immense global popularity of the World Cup that forces the clubs to capitulate and release their players for FIFA dates.

Simply making it to Brazil is a laudable achievement for the majority of the tournament field. Jordan, a nation seeking its first-ever World Cup appearance, successfully navigated three rounds and 18 matches of Asian qualifiers only to fall to Uruguay in an intercontinental playoff. Mexico endured 16 grueling CONCACAF matches before vanquishing New Zealand in a playoff to book their place in Brazil. When the United States beat Mexico to clinch their own spot in the World Cup, the American fans broke out in joyous song.

After the qualification process is complete, the 32 finalists are divided into eight four-team groups via a lottery known as the FIFA World Cup Draw. Eight teams are seeded based on their FIFA World Ranking and distributed into each of the World Cup groups, which are lettered A through H. The host nation receives an automatic seed and is placed in Group A.

Another core principle of the draw separates teams from the same confederation. Because European teams make up almost half of the field, many of the groups will have two European teams. Getting drawn together with two European teams is often seen as being placed in a “Group of Death.” These groups can be particularly fatal if there’s also a South American power in the mix. It’s also unfortunate to be drawn with the host nation, as only one host (South Africa in 2010), has ever failed to advance from the group stage.

Once the tournament begins, each team will play one game against the other three members of its group. Teams are awarded 3 points in the standings for a win, 1 point for a draw, and 0 points for a loss. There is no overtime in the group stage. If the game is tied after 90 minutes, both teams get a point in the group standings. After the three group stage games, the two teams with the most points in each group advance to the knockout rounds. If two teams are tied on points, the team with the greater goal differential (goals scored minus goals conceded) will advance. If the two teams in question have the same goal differential, then the team who scored more goals will advance.

With three guaranteed games, the group stage offers each World Cup participant a chance to leave a lasting impression, even if they fail to advance. Any team with a distinct style, a little flair, and a nose for the goal is sure to capture the hearts of the fans. A loss doesn’t necessarily spell elimination, so teams will take more risks in the group stage, often leading to more entertaining games with more goals scored. The Group (sometimes groups) of Death features marquee matchups between some of the world’s top sides while the other groups provide opportunities for underdogs to topple traditional powers.

There are also matches that are intriguing due to their historical or political subtext. In 2002, Senegal shocked the world by defeating defending champion and former colonizer France in the opening game. In 1998, the United States suffered a disappointing loss against Iran. North Korea’s appearance in South Africa four years ago was not memorable for their soccer (they scored one goal and gave up 12) but for the wild stories that surrounded the team: it was rumored that the fans supporting the team in the stadiums were not North Koreans but Chinese actors paid by the government. It was also rumored that only North Korean team highlights were being shown back home. I guess they had their one goal on a loop.

The knockout stage of the World Cup is essentially a 16-team single-elimination tournament. The bracket is determined by the aforementioned World Cup Draw. The teams that finish first in their groups are paired against teams that finished second (A1 vs. D2, B1 vs. C2, etc.). These matches are win-or-go-home, so the soccer tends to be more conservative here than in the group stage.

Each team is carrying the weight of a nation’s expectations, and the intensity of the matches leads to more physical play. Players are red-carded more frequently in these later rounds. Yellow and red cards are issued for particularly aggressive fouls and other serious violations. Two yellow cards are the equivalent of a red card. If a player is issued a red card, he is thrown out of the match and his team may not substitute for him; they must play one man short for the rest of the game. A red-carded player is also ineligible to play in his team’s next match. An early red card can alter the course of a match. Croatia benefited from a 40th-minute red card against Germany in the 1998 quarterfinals to score one of the tournament’s great upsets.

Knockout stage matches must have a winner. If the game is tied after 90 minutes, extra time is played. Extra time (soccerese for “overtime”) consists of two 15-minute halves. The entire 30 minutes of extra time is played whether or not anyone scores. FIFA used to have a “Golden Goal” rule (soccerese for “sudden death”) but scrapped it after the 2002 World Cup. If the game is still tied after extra time, a penalty shootout will settle the matter.

Penalty shootouts are soccer’s answer to Russian roulette. Each team selects five (probably exhausted) shooters to take a penalty kick at the opposing (probably terrified) goalie. Whichever team makes more of their kicks wins. If it’s still tied after five shooters, each team will send another until one scores and the other misses.

A penalty kick is taken from a spot 12 yards from the goal. During the game, a team is awarded a penalty kick if they are fouled close to the goal, inside the 18-yard box known as the penalty area. If a player suffers a foul anywhere else on the field, he is entitled to a free kick from the spot where he was fouled, but if the player is fouled in the penalty area, any player on his team is entitled to kick from the penalty spot.

Penalty kicks are designed to give the shooters an advantage. They are a punishment for preventing a goal-scoring opportunity in a sport where scoring is scarce. The shooter and goalie will eye each other and try to glean some tell as to where the other will be shooting or diving. Most times, the goalie picks a direction and leaps, giving him a 50-50 shot of successfully blocking an average attempt. But if the shooter makes a good shot, the goalie doesn’t have much of a chance.

The penalty shootout, however, comes after 120 minutes of heated competition. The pressure in any World Cup match is intense and only grows as the tournament progresses. A shootout can be a battle of nerves. With the game on the line, the shooters become a little more fallible. In the 1994 World Cup Final, Italian Roberto Baggio famously missed the goal entirely, sending his penalty over the crossbar and giving Brazil their fourth World Cup. (They would add a fifth in 2002.) Italy won the 2006 World Cup in a shootout against France, after Zinedine Zidane was red-carded for his infamous headbutt. England has lost all three shootouts they have been in; Germany has won all four of theirs.

The tournament so far has featured goals aplenty, with at least three scores in nearly every match. We’ve already seen some shocking results. Holland’s 5-1 defeat of defending champion Spain turned heads, as did Costa Rica’s 3-1 upset of Uruguay. The rest of the Cup promises plenty of excitement.

Will Brazil claim their sixth trophy and redeem their failure to win as hosts in 1950? Can Lionel Messi, widely considered the world’s best player, score for Argentina with the same ease as he does for the Barcelona club? Who will win the Golden Boot, awarded to the tournament’s top scorer? Can the U.S. defense withstand Cristiano Ronaldo’s immaculately chiseled abs to advance from the Group of Death?

Over the next month, 32 nations will play what Brazilians like to call “The Beautiful Game.” A champion will be crowned, Cinderella teams will pull off huge upsets, spectacular goals will be scored, unheralded players will burst onto the scene, the world’s great players will perform as only they can, and at least one player will be shown a red card for a momentary lapse of sanity. Through it all, the world will watch, billions strong.

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Curiata.com recommends books for summer reading


The Time Traveler’s Wife by Audrey Niffenegger

The Time Traveler’s Wife is the story of librarian Henry DeTamble, who at any moment can disappear into the past or future as a result of some genetic anomaly, and Claire Abshire, an artist whose entire life has been shaped by Henry’s time travel. The novel alternates between Claire’s and Henry’s perspectives as they share the story of their unusual lives. As one might expect in a novel about time travel, the chronology of the book is not always linear, but it doesn’t suffer, for it is beautifully written and completely engrossing. The time travel elements to the story are subtle yet complex, and the book is endearing and tragic at the same time. Niffenegger has managed to weave together an intricate tapestry between the past and present to tell the complete journey of these two characters. Seeing how all the pieces fit together becomes completely absorbing. I read this novel for the first time years ago and have yet to find any book that sticks with me the way this one has. It’s the perfect blend of romance and science fiction.


Storm Front by Jim Butcher

Storm Front is the first of “The Dresden Files” series by Jim Butcher. Harry Dresden is a professional wizard living in Chicago; he can find lost objects and missing persons and occasionally consults with the Chicago Police Department’s Special Investigations unit — the team that handles all the “weird” cases. In this first novel, a serial killer is using black magic to rip out the hearts of his victims, and Dresden is recruited to stop him. I was immediately drawn in by Dresden’s narrative voice and humor, and his endless nerd-culture references never cease to amuse me. The best part about “The Dresden Files” is that they just keep getting better. Butcher recently released book 15 in the series, Skin Game, and it may be the best yet. The way Butcher is able to weave threads through the course of the novels fascinates me; in 15 books, he has yet to write himself into a corner, a great feat for any author of a series this long. If you’re a fan of Harry Potter and would like to find a more adult equivalent, Harry Dresden is your man. I highly recommend giving this series a chance.


In the Woods by Tana French

If you’re a fan of British crime dramas such as Broadchurch or Wallander, you’ll definitely enjoy the novels of Tana French, whose Broken Harbor we reviewed earlier this year. In the Woods is the first of what have become known as the “Dublin Murder Squad” novels. Each book in the series is told from the perspective of one of the characters on the Murder Squad of the police force in Dublin, Ireland; In the Woods is from the point of view of Rob Ryan. When Ryan was a child, his three best friends disappeared and only he was found, covered in blood and terrified. Twenty years later, Ryan investigates the murder of a young child in those same woods. French’s novels are completely gripping and compelling and her writing style is brilliant; these aren’t action-packed adventures but completely character driven, and every detail is important. French is a brilliant writer who takes the reader on a winding path to obscure the ending from view. She creates vibrant characters with many layers to keep uncovering until the final pages. I’m not a big fan of the standard mystery novel, but these books are fantastic and hard to put down.


Bitter is the New Black by Jen Lancaster

Really any book by Jen Lancaster would make great summer reading; I love her wit and sarcasm and her sense of humor. However, Bitter is the New Black is the first of her series of memoirs; while I’ve enjoyed each book since, this one remains my favorite. Bitter is the story of how Jen and her boyfriend Fletcher, both with successful jobs and a seemingly perfect life, suddenly find themselves unemployed and unable to pay their electric bill. Lancaster shares how she and Fletch hit rock bottom, then pulled themselves back up again, with many humorous anecdotes along the way — including the decision to get married just so people would have to buy them gifts or give them money. Lancaster’s bluntness and humor may seem abrasive to some; I see her as the friend who says everything you’re thinking but wouldn’t dare speak out loud. I’ve had the pleasure of meeting Lancaster in person and can tell you that “book Jen” is not a persona; she is just as witty and fun as she comes across in her books. If you’ve never read anything by Lancaster I recommend starting with Bitter. Then, the rest of her books can be read in any order you choose.


City of Bones by Cassandra Clare

If you’re a fan of young adult fantasy but are tired of sparkly vampires, you might enjoy the “Mortal Instruments” books by Cassandra Clare. City of Bones is the first of this series about a race of nephilim (part-angel warriors) known as Shadowhunters that fight demons, vampires, and other creatures. When I first read this book, I was anticipating your typical fantasy romance; girl meets guy, becomes involved in whatever supernatural world he’s a part of, girl and guy fall in love, girl is placed in mortal danger and must be rescued, both live happily ever after. This was not one of those stories, which is probably why I enjoyed it so much. While some of the twists are easy to figure out before they happen, I still didn’t feel like anything in this book was as predictable as most YA books tend to be. I also believe Clare writes for a more intelligent audience, not simpering teenage girls who are looking for the next Edward Cullen. The final book of this series was released just a few weeks ago, but if you enjoy the world Clare has created, there is also a prequel trilogy to check out, plus she has plans for another series within the world of the Shadowhunters.

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Superheroes approach killing from differing philosophies

Superheroes, whether in comics, movies, or animated television shows, make up our modern mythology. Like the mythology of the ancients, the stories we tell represent our greatest hopes, fears, and ideals. Then what does it say about us when our heroes kill?

Is there anything wrong with Superman killing General Zod to protect an innocent family? Does Wolverine’s use of deadly force to stop mass murderers make him any less heroic than Batman? These questions, though applied to fictional characters, hold great insights into who we are in the era of the drone and preemptive war.

The conflict is one of differing philosophies. Opponents of the death penalty and drone strikes share a philosophical mindset with some of our greatest fictional characters. These heroes, like Batman, Spider-Man, and Aang from Avatar: The Last Airbender, are famous practitioners of deontology, a philosophy that states that actions themselves, regardless of consequences, have an intrinsic moral value. Under deontology, stealing is wrong whether it is for personal gain or to feed your family, and killing is morally reprehensible even if it is done to save the lives of millions.

Some of the strongest heroes in fiction, including Superman and Goku from Dragon Ball Z, try their hardest to maintain this philosophy, but have occasionally made the difficult decision to do the unthinkable when circumstances have dictated. Goku, for example, gave his antagonist, Frieza, numerous opportunities to leave with his life, but the Super Saiyan was left no choice but to fire back at the monster in self-defense.

Some heroes find the morality of killing dangerous men to be much less morally ambiguous. These heroes practice the philosophy of utilitarianism, which states that the moral value of an action is directly linked to its consequences. Therefore, if killing the Phoenix saves the lives of thousands or millions of innocent people, doing so is the morally correct decision. Wolverine, who did kill Phoenix in X3, is perhaps the most obvious example, but other heroes who practice utilitarianism include such squeaky clean characters as the Power Rangers and the Jedi.

Spider-Man’s origin story offers a perfect example of the conflict between deontology and utilitarianism. When a robber passes by Peter Parker, he is faced with a moral decision. Deontology dictates that Peter stop the thief. Stealing is, itself, a moral wrong, and Peter, possessing the power necessary to easily stop him, should have. He didn’t, and the decision had dire consequences. Utilitarianism states that not stopping the thief only became wrong when it later led to the death of Peter’s Uncle Ben. By not apprehending the man, Peter made the wrong moral decision under both utilitarianism and deontology.

But does the equation change when the stakes are raised? When Peter defeats his enemies, such as Green Goblin, he hands them off to the authorities, where they are then expected to go through the legal process. Should Peter have killed these villains instead? Under the American legal system, we expect citizens to only use lethal force as a last resort. And under deontological reasoning, killing is always wrong. But these villains are left with the ability to escape custody and further harm civilians. In one of the most famous examples, Green Goblin, who Spider-Man had refused to kill in the past, ended the life of Peter’s girlfriend, Gwen Stacy. The utilitarian philosopher would then argue that Peter’s refusal to kill the Goblin was wrong, because it led to Gwen’s death.

Under deontology, Spider-Man can’t be held responsible for the blood on the Goblin’s hands. Using the same philosophy, Batman also can’t be blamed for Joker’s murder of the second Robin, Jason Todd, or his crippling of Barbara Gordon. Batman is defined by his refusal to kill, even under the most extenuating circumstances. As shown in the animated movie Under the Red Hood, when forced to choose between saving the life of the Joker and killing the Red Hood, Batman found a third way by stopping Red Hood’s firearm, ironically saving the man who caused so much grief.

Letting someone die, not just killing, was a moral wrong in Bruce Wayne’s mind, and Batman could not let that happen, even though Red Hood’s arguments about the Joker were all true. Thousands died at the hands of the Joker, and because of his insanity, the legal system would never put him to death. According to Red Hood, Batman had a moral obligation to save the lives of the Joker’s future victims by killing the mad man when he had the chance. By not doing so, the blood of the Clown Prince of Crime was on the hands of the Caped Crusader.

Batman’s refusal to kill has long been the basis for his unlikely friendship with the Man of Tomorrow, even if Zack Snyder and David Goyer completely missed that. Superman, despite having the power of a god, has refused for most of his 75-year history to kill even the most dangerous of villains. The few times in which he behaved differently have been so rare that they either were used to reshape the DC Universe or were done in alternate continuities.

When Clark Kent finally crosses that line and allows himself to kill, it always acts as the beginning of a slippery slope. In the ongoing comic story Injustice, the Joker tricks Superman into accidentally killing Lois Lane and her unborn baby before detonating a nuclear weapon in the middle of Metropolis. Clark finally snaps and kills the Joker — something Batman had always refused to do.

Bruce immediately comes into conflict with Superman, but chooses to bide his time and hope that his friend will realize his mistake. Instead, Superman slips further into the role of seemingly benevolent dictator. After killing the Joker, Superman decides it’s time to stop playing with kid gloves, and he begins taking out those who have committed atrocious acts. Dictators fall, villains are killed, and the descent of the world’s greatest hero into mass murderer begins. Once the Rubicon has been crossed, Clark finds it increasingly easy to kill, even ending the life of Green Arrow over a simple misunderstanding in front of his own parents.

Batman stands by his philosophical beliefs and becomes the only man able to bring down the Dictator of Steel. But if he is given the opportunity, will Bruce Wayne be morally obligated to end the life of a super killer? Obviously, Batman says no, but other heroes would answer differently.

In Age of Ultron, the Marvel world is plunged into darkness by a robot-killing machine. When Wolverine learns that Ultron was built by Hank Pym, the original Ant-Man, he decides to do what is necessary to save the world. Wolverine travels back in time to kill Pym before he even conceives of Ultron. Pym, at that time, was still heroic, a member of the Avengers. He had yet to do anything wrong, but Wolverine, believing in utilitarian ethics, chose to end the man’s life before his creation could cause any harm. The plan ultimately backfired, but Wolverine’s willingness to kill a still-innocent man provokes an interesting question about what makes someone heroic.

The Jedi of the Star Wars universe don’t have the benefit of time travel, but they do take seriously their duty to maintain the peace, even if that means killing. Unlike with Superman and others, there is no hesitation in the Jedi when it comes to taking down those who would harm the innocent. The Jedi, like the Green Lantern Corps and the real-world police, are charged with protecting the innocent and are thus allowed to kill when necessary.

In Phantom Menace, Obi-Wan Kenobi seemingly ends the life of the Sith Lord, Darth Maul, due to his personal feelings that the Sith are evil. We, as members of the audience, are inclined to agree with his decision, but have a very different point of view when it is Anakin Skywalker who behaves in the same manner. In Revenge of the Sith, Anakin cuts off the hand of Jedi master Mace Windu, allowing Darth Sidious to kill him. Anakin, like his old master, was taking action against a man he perceived to be committing an evil act — after all, Mace Windu was technically trying to enact a coup.

The death of Mace Windu led to 30 years of oppressive rule under the Empire. Does this result make Anakin’s actions any more reprehensible than Obi-Wan’s? Under utilitarian ethics, the answer is yes, but using deontology, both actions hold equal moral weight.

The beauty of fictional superheroes, however, is that morally difficult questions can be solved with creative writing. A hero does not have to choose between killing the supervillain or letting innocents die. Batman can stop Red Hood’s gun, Superman can turn back time, and Goku can use the Dragon Balls to wish his enemies back to life with new moral compasses. Unfortunately, these third choices can be seen as copouts at best, and poor storytelling at worst. One of the worst offenders of this copout came about as part of the most compelling and philosophically challenging stories ever told. On Nickelodeon, at least.

Avatar: The Last Airbender follows the story of Aang, the fabled Avatar. The Avatar is styled on the Dalai Lama, if the Buddhist leader could shoot fire from his hands. The Avatar is reincarnated upon death and is distinguished from other element benders by his or her ability to bend all four elements: Earth, Fire, Water, and Air. Aang is the sole survivor of the Air Nation, a society of pacifist monks whose abilities were used primarily in defense.

Aang is told his entire life that it is his destiny to defeat the Fire Lord, who has conquered most of the four nations and brought oppression to the people. No one doubts the Fire Lord is evil, but Aang is still a little boy and is unable to accept that killing his nemesis is the answer. When all of his human mentors tell him that he has no other choice, Aang looks to the spirits of his past lives — the previous Avatars — for another answer. Unfortunately, they all declare the same thing: the evil of the Fire Lord must be defeated, and Aang must accept his destiny by killing the man.

Even during the final fight, Aang refuses to do what is expected of him but finds a third way. The Avatar uses his powers to take away the bending ability of the Fire Lord, relegating him to the status and danger level of a regular human. Aang is able to stick to his deontological beliefs even with the fate of the world on the line. Sure, it was contrived and came with no foreshadowing, but it spoke to a strong ethical ideal and seemed to split the difference between deontology and utilitarianism. Aang was able to stand by his beliefs and still save the world, never compromising. But even the spiritual leaders of this mystic world from across the ages found nothing wrong with killing a dangerous man. Ultimately, it was Aang’s personal morality, not a universally held social morality, that prevented the Avatar from crossing a line he was unwilling to cross.

Perhaps this is the difference between Batman and Superman as well. Batman’s aversion to death comes from the trauma of seeing his own parents gunned down before him. Superman only ever experienced such loss in distant ways, and his morality was formed only by lessons from virtuous parents. Maybe this is why writers find it so much easier to see Superman finally crack and kill people. Wolverine’s willingness to kill comes from his understanding that the world is a much darker place, and it is sometimes necessary to do something morally questionable for the greater good.

These characters’ personal ethics about taking the lives of others does not dictate whether or not they can be considered heroes any more than it can in the real world. But it is these ethics that define the characters we love and that lend them their staying power. They give us examples to live by, just as ancient mythology did for our ancestors.

What do you think? Is Batman to blame when the Joker kills innocents? Should Aang have been prepared to do the unthinkable for the fate of his world? Is Wolverine any less heroic for killing an innocent Hank Pym? Did Zack Snyder make a mistake by having his Superman kill General Zod?

These questions are a lot more relevant now, in a world of terrorist attacks and mass shootings. Unfortunately, we don’t have the luxury of writers who can concoct new powers for us when the time calls for it, and we may all some day be faced with a difficult decision that makes us rethink our moral codes.

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UFC 174: Sambo champ challenges for flyweight title

This article was written by guest contributor Josh Burkholder.

Rogers Arena in Vancouver, British Columbia, will host UFC 174: Johnson vs. Bagautinov, live on pay-per-view tonight. The Ultimate Fighting Championship mixed martial arts card is stacked, headlined by Demetrious “Mighty Mouse” Johnson defending his flyweight title, a welterweight bout with serious title shot implications, and the return of a legend.

Main Event
Flyweight (125 pounds) title bout
Demetrious “Mighty Mouse” Johnson (Champion, 19-2-1) vs. Ali “Puncher King” Bagautinov (#4 flyweight contender, 13-2-0)

The Dagestani invasion of mixed martial arts continues this Saturday, which marks the second time in two weeks that a UFC event is headlined by a fighter from the small section of Russia. Ali “Puncher King” Bagautinov, riding an impressive 11-fight win streak, looks to knock off Johnson, the inaugural flyweight champion. Bagautinov, a two-time World Sambo Champion, has gone 3-0 since entering MMA’s big leagues. Despite two of those wins being over fighters ranked within the top 10, he faces a huge step up in competition against Johnson.

Mighty Mouse’s last defeat came in October 2011, when he lost via decision to then bantamweight (135 pounds) champ Dominick Cruz, which prompted his move down to the newly added flyweight division. Since his reclassification, Johnson has ripped through UFC’s smallest division with an impressive 5-0-1 record. His most recent fight lasted just over two minutes when he knocked out the always-game Joseph Benavidez (the No. 2 flyweight contender). Tonight, Mighty Mouse will attempt to solidify his spot near the top of the pound-for-pound list by defending his belt for a fourth time.

Bagautinov has the wrestling acumen to keep his opponent standing, where he can land some devastating shots. This is a tall order, however, as Mighty Mouse is incredibly quick, has superior footwork, and seems to get better in every fight. The Dagestani has yet to have his gas tank tested in a title fight, whereas Johnson has shown cardio that is second to none.

Prediction: “Mighty Mouse” is just too quick and technically sound. He will show why he’s one of the best fighters on the planet. Johnson by decision.

Co-Main Event
Welterweight (170 pounds) bout
Rory “Ares” MacDonald (#2, 16-2-0) vs. Tyron “The Chosen One” Woodley (#3, 13-2-0)

Before UFC’s fastest division’s title is on the line, two top welterweights, Rory “Ares” MacDonald and Tyron “The Chosen One” Woodley will do battle in the co-main event to determine the possible No. 1 contender to the newly crowned welterweight champion, Johny Hendricks.

This matchup has “Fight of the Night” written all over it. MacDonald is 6-1 in his last seven fights, with his only loss coming from Robbie Lawler (the No. 1 welterweight contender), the man who last fought the champ to a decision loss. A former training partner of welterweight king Georges St. Pierre, MacDonald is believed by many to be the next great Canadian champion at 170 pounds. He possesses great technique and has no holes in his game.

Standing across from MacDonald is a two-time All-American wrestler out of the University of Missouri. Woodley has gone 3-1 since he arrived in UFC, with all of his wins by knockout or TKO over some tough veterans: Jay Hieron, Josh Koscheck, and Carlos Condit (No. 4 welterweight). Woodley’s only loss was in a lackluster contest with Jake Shields via split decision.

“The Chosen One” is an explosive, high-octane fighter with the ability to knock any welterweight out with a single shot. With the highly anticipated Matt Brown (the No. 5 welterweight) vs. Lawler matchup made for later this summer now being touted as the new No. 1 contender’s bout, Woodley’s and MacDonald’s chances at a title shot look a bit distant. Woodley, however, believes differently.

“My reaction is if I go out there and fight Rory and put the whooping on Rory like he’s never had before, I think I’ll be fighting for the title,” Woodley said to Fox Sports. “I think Dana White says a lot of things — I’ll never do this, I’ll never do that, I’ll never sign a woman to the UFC, anybody that was on this EA Sports video game will never fight in the UFC — I think performances stand out. I think that’s what my plan was anyways. Go out and put on a high-level performance against a high level guy and really just stay focused on that and let everything fall into place.”

After delivering a beating to the likes of Nate Diaz, Mike Pyle, Che Mills, and subsequently retiring the great B.J. Penn, MacDonald seemed to lack the killer instinct in his last three fights. On the contrary, Woodley looks more impressive each time we see him. His ability to close the distance and deliver lightning-fast, powerful blows is uncanny.

Prediction: MacDonald’s mix of technique and streaks of viciousness make for a tough fight for anyone in the welterweight division, and at 24 years old, he probably will see a title shot in his near future, but likely not this year. Woodley is a scary, scary fighter at 170 pounds. He is motivated and has something to prove to the higher-ups. Woodley by knockout in round 2.

Undercard match
Light Heavyweight (205 pounds) bout
Ryan “Darth” Bader (#9, 17-4-0) vs. Rafael “Feijao” Cavalcante (#12, 12-4-0)

Also on the card is a light heavyweight bout featuring The Ultimate Fighter season 8 winner, Ryan “Darth” Bader, and former Strikeforce light heavyweight champion Rafael “Feijao” Cavalcante. Bader, a two-time All-American wrestler out of Arizona State University, is looking to string a pair of wins together for the first time in two years. Bader’s last win over a top-tier opponent was in 2012, with a unanimous decision over Quinton “Rampage” Jackson.

For Feijao, this fight is an opportunity to break into the top 10 of the light heavyweight division. He is a durable black belt Brazilian jiujitsu fighter out of the famed Black House gym, where he trains with the greatest fighter of all time, Anderson Silva, and the legendary Nogueira brothers, and is 1-1 since entering UFC.

Prediction: Bader would be wise to use his wrestling and turn this fight into a three-round decision. All but one of Cavalcante’s 12 wins have come by way of knockout. Will he follow that gameplan, or will he try to stand up with the Brazilian? If he does, I see a short night for “Darth” Bader. Feijao by knockout in round 1.

The return of “The Pit Bull”
Heavyweight (265 pounds) bout
Andrei “The Pit Bull” Arlovski (Unranked, 21-10-0) vs. Brendan “The Hybrid” Schaub (#14, 11-3-0)

Andrei “The Pitbull” Arlovski returns to UFC for the first time in six years. A former heavyweight champion, he has had some ups and downs since leaving UFC, but has recently seen a career resurgence, going 6-1 with one no-contest in his last eight fights. The Belarusian-born fighter, now under the tutelage of famed coach Greg Jackson, looks to take a final crack at climbing to the top of the mountain from which he once ruled. But fans have to wonder: how much does Arlovski have left in the tank?

Brendan “The Hybrid” Schaub, a former contestant of The Ultimate Fighter and former NFL prospect, looks to make a run of his own. His record stands at 6-3 since he has been in UFC, with notable wins over legend Mirko “Cro Cop” Filipovic and Gabriel Gonzaga. But does he have what it takes to break into the top 10?

Prediction: This is the biggest question mark on the card. Has Schaub improved enough to compete with the division’s elite? Does Arlovski have another run in him? I have to go with my heart on this one. Arlovski by decision.

This card has all the makings of a great night of fights. Will a champion continue his reign of dominance, or will we see a shocking upset? Will welterweight champ Hendricks have a new contender? Can a legend regain the greatness he once showed? We will find out tonight!

Also on the card
Light heavyweight (205 pounds) bout
Ovince St. Preux (#13, 15-5-0) vs. Ryan “The Big Deal” Jimmo (Unranked, 19-3-0)

Prelims live on FX (8 p.m. Eastern)
Welterweight bout: Daniel Sarafian vs. Kiichi “Strasser” Kunimoto
Women’s bantamweight bout: Valerie “Trouble” Letourneau vs. Elizabeth Phillips
Bantamweight bout: Yves “Tiger” Jabouin vs. Mike “The Hulk” Easton
Lightweight bout: Kajan “Ragin'” Johnson vs. Tae Hyun “Supernatural” Bang

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Weekend trip to sample wine of Finger Lakes, part 1

When this column began back in January, I wrote about New York wine, focused on the Finger Lakes. This past weekend, I got a chance to visit the area, including tastings at nearly 20 wineries. It was a perfect weekend to visit, with pleasant weather and surprisingly few crowds. My wife and I took a winding journey around Keuka Lake and Seneca Lake, not having time to stop at every winery, and no time at all to visit Cayuga Lake. We found some tremendous wines. It seems like each winery has something unique about it: an interesting story about how the winery got started or how the owners ended up in New York, growing uncommon grapes or making wine using uncommon methods.

In case you’re unfamiliar with the area, the lakes are long and narrow, running north-south through the expanse of New York state ringed by Rochester, Syracuse, Binghamton, and Elmira. Seneca Lake, just barely the second-longest after Cayuga, is 38 miles end-to-end. There are no bridges over the lakes, so if you need to drive to the opposite shore, it’s a bit of a ride.

Interstate 90 provides access to the Finger Lakes from points north (such as Ontario and Quebec), east (New England and upstate New York), and west or southwest (Buffalo, Pittsburgh, and beyond). Visitors from southeast (New York City, Philadelphia) can travel Interstate 81 to Binghamton and branch out from there.

For everyone directly south of the Finger Lakes, which includes my wife and me near Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, as well as travelers from Baltimore and Washington, D.C., take Interstate 83 to U.S. Route 15 through Corning, New York, home to the famed Corning Museum of Glass. From there, take Interstate 86 west, through Bath and Hammondsport (named America’s Coolest Small Town in 2012) to get to Keuka Lake. Otherwise, follow I-86 east to Horseheads, and then choose U.S. 14 to Watkins Glen to access Seneca Lake or U.S. 13 to Ithaca for Cayuga Lake.

Cayuga wineries are along New York Route 89 on the west shore and Route 90 on the east. Route 14 is along the west of Seneca Lake, with Route 414 on the east shore. Keuka Lake lies on Route 54.

The first half of our trip took us on a familiar path, visiting wineries on Keuka Lake and a few on the west side of Seneca Lake. We’ve taken this route a few times before, but manage to find new wineries and new wines each time we visit. The second half of our trip, which I will discuss next time, took us to the east side of Seneca Lake.

There are far fewer wineries on Keuka than on Seneca, and they are mostly clustered along the southern half of the lake. Our first stop was Bully Hill, a long-time Finger Lakes institution on the west side of Keuka. The winery sits high up on a hill with amazing views of the lake below. Bully Hill grew out of a dispute between Walter S. Taylor and the Taylor Wine Company, founded by Walter’s grandfather. Today, Bully Hill is known as the “anti-stuffy” winery on Keuka Lake.

Visitors to Bully Hill can taste of five pre-selected wines (some dry, some sugary sweet), normally with a big crowd of people and the rowdy, entertaining staff, or they can opt for a custom tasting of any wine for $1 each. Since we had done the group tasting multiple times before and almost always focus on dry wines, we opted for a custom tasting. The Estate Blend, cabernet franc, Meat Market Red, and Fish Market White were standouts, and the prices can’t be beat. Bully Hill makes many different wines, with something for every palate.

Down the hill from Bully is Keuka Lake Vineyards, a winery with a very different personality. The tasting room is small and intimate, and the winery operation is much smaller, with far fewer wines available. The winery offers several excellent single-vineyard rieslings, which gives the taster a chance to sample the different Finger Lakes terroirs. We tasted two cabernet franc vintages (2011 and 2012), as well as a Léon Millot, a French-American hybrid red grape.

Traveling back to Hammondsport and up the eastern side of the lake, our third stop was at Domaine Leseurre. Owners Céline & Sébastien Leseurre just opened the winery in the fall of 2013, and the wines are already some of my favorite from New York. The tasting room is also small and intimate, with lots of natural light and beautiful views. Because the winery is so new, only whites and a rosé are available — the reds are not yet ready for release (though a pinot noir and cabernet franc are coming soon, I’m told). Even so, it is well worth stopping to taste the magnificent whites.

Sébastien emphasizes Bâtonnage, an Old World winemaking technique that involves stirring up the lees by hand. This allows the wine to take on a smoother, rounder personality, with layers of well-integrated flavors. Multiple rieslings and chardonnays are offered, and the differences among each are fascinating. Oaked versus unoaked chardonnay, dry riesling versus semi-dry riesling versus a rare oaked riesling, a zippy but not-too-harsh Gewürztraminer, and a refreshing dry pinot noir rosé — all are stunning creations.

From one favorite winery to another: our next stop was Ravines, where my wife and I are wine club members. Visiting the tasting room is always a great experience because of the very knowledgeable staff. Like Bully Hill, Ravines also has an interesting back story, involving a winemaker from Denmark, the purchase of a sought-after vineyard and château in France, and corrupt officials squandering the deal. We are better for it, however, as Ravines owner and winemaker Morten Hallgren settled in the Finger Lakes instead.

The quality of the Ravines wine is easily one of the best in all of New York, and the dry riesling is among the best in the country, consistently scoring 90+ points in major wine ratings. The pinot noir is Hallgren’s real passion, which is a true expression of the grape, and the Meritage blend is also very, very well made (and suitable for cellaring).

Up the road from Ravines is McGregor Vineyards, which has attracted something of a cult following in the Finger Lakes. The winery produces a wide variety of wines, but the Eastern European varietals Sereksiya Charni, Saperavi Rkatsiteli, and Sereksiya Rose set the vineyard apart. McGregor owes its cult status to its popular but pricey Black Russian Red, a blend of Sereksiya Charni and Saperavi Rkatsiteli. A visit to the tasting room, decked out in Clan Gregor plaid and all things Scottish, provides a good experience for anyone, from the novice sweet wine drinker to the serious wino. The Highlands Red is a great value for an everyday table wine.

We stopped at The Olney Place for lunch, a fantastic deli with great beer selection and a catchy motto: “Get this deli in your belly!” The grilled sandwiches are delicious and the sticky buns are legendary (get there early for breakfast if you hope to snag a few).

Here, our journey took a turn to the east, and a short drive brought us from Keuka Lake to the western side of Seneca Lake, the largest lake and home to the most wineries. It’s hard to visit Seneca and not stop at Hermann J. Wiemer Vineyard, which, along with Ravines, is perhaps the best-known winery of the Finger Lakes region. The winery’s namesake came to New York from a German winemaking family and was instrumental in turning the Finger Lakes into an area for fine wine varietals, particularly riesling.

The winery website lists eight different Rieslings currently available, from dry to sweet, and several single-vineyard offerings. Even more astounding, all of them have been scored over 90 points. Don’t get too focused on riesling, however; the other white wines, as well as the pinot noir and cabernet franc, are all extremely well-made. The tasting room is fairly small and intimate, and best of all, it is right among the stainless steel tanks of the winemaking operation.

Just north is Shaw Vineyard, another winery serious about serious wine. More than anything, what sets Shaw apart is the tremendous respect the winery has for the aging process. Wine is barrel- and bottle-aged longer at Shaw than maybe any other winery in the Finger Lakes. In fact, we were tasting reds this past weekend from the 2007 and 2008 vintages. (I have a Chardonnay from the 2005 vintage in my cellar, purchased not long ago.) This is almost unheard of in the region, mostly because of the costs involved.

Growing the grapes, crushing them, and fermenting the juice, is a labor- and time-intensive process. A long time goes by before a crop of grapes brings in any revenue, and Shaw grapes take even longer. But owner Steve Shaw insists on the benefits of his system, and they show in the wines. The 2007 Keuka Hill Reserve, a Bordeaux blend, is particularly enticing — and could warrant even five or 10 more years in the cellar.

Monello Winery is relatively new and a smaller operation but is already growing. Even since my last visit in 2013, several new wines have been introduced. You’ll usually find owner Grace Mirchandani pouring in the tasting room, which is easily identified from the road by a large, red “M” sign. Monello, which in Italian means “brat,” produces mostly dry wines, including a delicious dry riesling and a red blend, called Pella Rosa, perfect for red sauce pasta dishes.

Billsboro Winery has been one of my favorites since my first trip to the Finger Lakes 10 years ago. Unlike most wineries, Billsboro’s tasting room is set in the woods, with a rustic, relaxed feel inside. The dry riesling and pinot gris are both praise-worthy, but the sauvignon blanc was the standout wine during this visit. Billsboro also provided the biggest surprise of the weekend: a Finger-Lakes-grown Albariño. Usually found in Spain and Portugal, the wine is very light-bodied and acidic, making it a perfect pairing for shellfish and light appetizers. Billsboro’s version was no different, delicious and refreshing.

Stay tuned for a trip to the southeastern side of Seneca Lake, sometimes referred to as the “Banana Belt” for its extended growing season, in part 2.

teenwolf

MTV’s Teen Wolf is better than you’d think

A television adaptation of a moderately successful 1980s fantasy film, airing on MTV. How can that possibly be any good?

This was my first thought when I heard the announcement for the Teen Wolf series a couple of years ago. The idea raised any number of issues. My first problem was that the series would be a remake. It seems like every time we turn around, shows are being remade, movies are being adapted into series — nothing is original anymore. Hollywood has run out of better ideas, so they go back to what has already been done and try to come up with a new twist or make it better. Despite the fact that one of my all-time favorite series was a reworking of a failed movie, I wasn’t feeling very forgiving in this case.

I was also completely biased against the show simply because it was airing on MTV, the network that gave us oh-so-classy shows like Jersey Shore, Jackass, and Viva La Bam (though I confess I do find Bam Margera amusing). I didn’t see how MTV could possibly produce a scripted series that was actually good.

Plus, there was the added stigma that the show might just rely on its eye candy, taking any opportunity it got to let the guys run around shirtless. Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t a necessarily a bad thing given the actors they’ve cast (Tyler Hoechlin is all grown up now), but I do appreciate a well-written script to go along with the gratuitous ab-showing.

With all those things going against it, I avoided the first two seasons of Teen Wolf, writing it off as simply another MTV attempt to build an audience by giving teens what they want to see. However, friends of mine relentlessly dangled that Hoechlin-shaped carrot (don’t judge me, I can be just as shallow as the next girl) in front of my face until I finally caved and agreed to see what this show was really about. What I discovered surprised me.

Yes, there was quite a bit of the expected exposed abdominals, but shirtless, muscled physiques aside (come on girls, admit you’re curious now), there was a decent storyline at work here, with characters who, believe it or not, had depth.

The premise of Teen Wolf is fairly simple on the surface: Scott McCall is a lacrosse-playing teenager who works part-time for the local veterinarian. One night, while sneaking out of the house with his best friend Stiles, Scott is bitten by a wolf and begins to show symptoms of becoming a werewolf. Meanwhile, Scott is also falling for the new girl in school, who just happens to be descended from a long line of werewolf hunters. This is just where the show begins; it has morphed several times since season 1.

The first two seasons were each 12 episodes long, with a well-planned arc for each. The third season was doubled to 24 episodes, but it was split into two halves, each plotted out almost like two separate seasons. The creators and writers carefully map out every part of each episode and how it relates to the arc so that no episode is truly a stand-alone episode — everything is vital to the continuing story.

And nearly every episode is packed with intense action that drives the plot of the season forward. I honestly don’t know when I’ve watched a series that has stressed me out so much in a single hour of television as this one does. It’s almost a relief that the seasons are only 12 episodes long, as you eventually need a break from all the tension (though by the end of that break, you’re counting down the days until the next premiere).

The series originally focused on the anticipated werewolf mythology. Season 2 introduced a new monster: a lizard-like creature known as a Kanima. In South American lore, the kanaima is a jaguar-like shape-shifter, but the Teen Wolf version is reptilian. Season 3 pulled from Celtic mythology in the first half of the season. The second half of season 3 dealt with the Japanese mythology of the Kitsune, as well as the Japanese-American experience, including internment during World War II.

Creator Jeff Davis has an excellent knack for introducing new mythology and blending it with the old without creating continuity issues. He is also meticulous about picking up threads from a year or two before that the viewer might have thought were unimportant only to reveal just how vital they are.

The cast of Teen Wolf is exactly what you would expect to see on MTV. All of the principal cast members are young and incredibly attractive. However, good looks aside, they’re also great actors. I’ve mentioned my love for Hoechlin; however, the true breakout star of the series would have to be Dylan O’Brien. Starring as Scott’s best friend Stiles, this is O’Brien’s first major role. He started out as the comic relief — a lovable goofball who could always bring a smile even in the most tense situations. However, season 3 showed viewers a completely different side of Stiles and allowed O’Brien to really show the range of his talent. O’Brien’s skills also stretch to writing, as Davis has allowed O’Brien to play with the script and even write some of his own lines and a couple of scenes.

One of my favorite aspects of this show is something you don’t see very often in teen dramas: the adult characters in Teen Wolf are just as well-developed and essential to the storyline as the teenagers. So often in teen shows, the parents are almost non-existent or are two-dimensional; they are just there to punish the teenagers, create conflict, or bring comic relief. But the parents in Teen Wolf are real characters that you care about just as much as the teenagers, and the teens have real relationships with their parents, not just quick, meaningless conversations to fill time.

Melissa McCall, Scott’s mother, is probably one of the coolest moms on television. She handled the revelation that her son is a supernatural creature surprisingly well, and she is terrific all around. I don’t think there’s been a character quite like her on a teen drama since Joyce Summers died on Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

Sheriff Stilinski, Stiles’ father, is by no means the stereotypical, clueless small-town sheriff — though he does remain ignorant of his son’s involvement with supernatural beings for the first two and a half seasons. He’s intelligent enough to know something else is going on before he finds out exactly what that is.

Finally, Chris Argent, the father of Scott’s love interest, Allison, and a werewolf hunter, has one of the more interesting arcs of the series. He learns to set aside generations of family history and work alongside the werewolves to protect the town rather than hunt them down.

There are many more things I could say about why Teen Wolf is a decent show despite the stigma of being a teen drama on MTV, but seeing really is believing. All three seasons are available to stream through Amazon Instant Video, free for Amazon Prime subscribers, and the third season is available on MTV.com. You can pretty easily pick it up with just season 3 if you’d like, though you’ll miss seeing Colton Haynes before he jumped ship and joined the cast of Arrow.

You have a little over a week to get caught up before season 4 premieres June 23, and if you like supernatural dramas, I suggest you give this one a chance.

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First pet brings joy, lesson: How to bury a salamander

Every Memorial Day weekend, my kids, husband, and I go to my favorite place on Earth: my grandparents’ farm. The property is nearly 300 acres of wooded hills, stone walls, peace, and quiet. The land is gorgeous, of course, but the most charming asset is actually my grandparents and the rest of my dad’s family, who live in relatively close proximity.

Lots of wild animals can be seen at the farm during all seasons, but Memorial Day weekend brings a seeming migration of salamanders. They appear in great numbers in vernal ponds and intermittent streams and under rocks in shaded, muddy areas.

One of my kids’ favorite activities (OK, and mine, too!) is newt-hunting with my dad. The kids love it because they always manage to get me to let them keep one as a pet. My dad loves it because, as a man of action who cannot stand idleness, he needs to “do” something as a way of connecting with my offspring. I love it because we get to hang out with Dad/Grampa and be outside without the kids asking one time to go inside/play on their Kindles/watch TV.

And experiencing the wonder of this little adventure through the kids’ eyes is crazy amazing. They love the hunt. They love to be the first to spot a salamander. They love to pick them up and handle them gently. They love to name them and attribute all sorts of character traits to them. How they can glean emotional clues from a salamanders face, I will never know — but, who am I to argue?

We all share a belief in fairies and things unseen. (Well, we share the desire for them to be real, and we often act like they are.) So as we marvel at the little amphibians, we question who, if anyone, cares for the salamanders. Of what use might they be to the fairy villages we believe are right under our noses if only we had the magic to see them? Do salamanders pull fairy carriages? Dig their gardens? Act as Watch Newts? Nothing keeps kids busier than their imaginations, and I love to see how my kids’ creative minds are put to use.

After returning from the world of fairies, we manage to catch one or five or 17 newts and take them back to the farm in a big Tupperware container filled with grass, moss, and a bit of water. We sit on the porch and study them and see who gets peed on first, because the huge danger of newts is (aside from their mildly toxic skin) the fact that they defecate on you with surprising frequency.

The Memorial Day holiday of 2011 was our first hunt. My daughter was 5 and my son was 2. We found many newts and, after considerable begging, mostly by my dad on behalf of the kids, we took a salamander home as a pet. She (for my daughter decided our newt was a girl and named her “Pudding”) survived the two-hour drive back to our house, and we had to immediately find a pet store to acquire the necessary supplies: small aquarium, food bowl, resin rock, and some kind of fake moss. Until that moment, I hadn’t realized pet stores actually sold “Newt and Salamander Bites” as food; they, in fact, do, and so we bought some of that as well.

In theory, this type of creature is low-maintenance. Salamanders shouldn’t be handled a lot, and they don’t need to go for walks. However, their aquariums need to be kept very clean, and so every three or four days, I’d have to take out all of the contents, wash them in hot water, wipe out the container, and then replace everything. My daughter did “help,” insomuch as a 5-year-old can. But, as parents all know, it’s often just easier to do it yourself.

Things hummed along pretty smoothly over the summer and into the fall. After Halloween, though, Pudding’s skin wasn’t as moist as it had been, and she didn’t move around as much. I thought this was due to the cool temperatures in our house and the fact that Pudding may be going into a dormant winter phase. Again, not being able to extrapolate a newt’s well-being by its facial expression and body language, I was at a loss.

On the morning of November 10, 2011, I came downstairs to feed my daughter and get her ready to catch the bus to school. As usual, I went to Pudding’s container to check on her and drop in a food pellet or two. That morning, it was clear to me Pudding was dead as a doornail.

My dilemma: Do I tell my daughter immediately about this situation, or do I wait and tell her after school? She usually checked on Pudding each morning, and I didn’t want her to see the dead carcass before she had heard the news. But, if she didn’t check on her, she didn’t really need to know right then, and I could delay the emotional response until after the school day was complete. Then again, if she did notice Pudding and I hadn’t told her, she would be devastated that I had tried to hide it from her. It was pretty much a lose-lose situation, so I decided to just get it over with and tell her.

My daughter Addie came downstairs, and I told her as gently as I could that Pudding had died. Tears and sorrow came pouring out of her little body. Her first question, in between sobs, was, “Do you think she had a good death? Did she suffer?” I told her that Pudding had a good life here — probably much longer of a life than she might have had in the woods. I told her that she had taken good care of Pudding and that Pudding surely knew that Addie loved her. I told her that salamanders didn’t live more than a season, and it was just what happens to salamanders in the fall and winter. (This may not be scientifically accurate, but it was a comfort to my little one, so please feel free not to send me links on the longevity of newts.)

I sent an email to Addie’s teacher, alerting her of this sad event, just so she would be prepared. We tried to make it look like Addie had not been weeping before she got on the bus. That day at school, Addie visited the “feelings counselor” and talked to her about Pudding.

When she came home, we placed Pudding’s tissue-wrapped body in a small jewelry box with some newt bites, leaves and sticks, and a pebble on which Addie had drawn a small heart. Addie found a large, smooth rock to use as a grave marker and decorated it. We decided to bury Pudding under the rose bush in our garden. It was still flowering, so Addie picked a bloom and placed it on Pudding’s resting place. Each of us (both kids and I) shared a memory of Pudding.

And that was that.

R.I.P. Pudding
Spring 2011 — 11/10/2011

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Take peek at gentleman’s shelf of grooming products

The Modern Urban Gentleman is subjected to a fair amount of ridicule for the number of grooming products in his bathroom. Many overnight vacations include the observation that he has packed more soaps and lotions than his naturally beautiful wife. Nonetheless, the care of a gentleman’s skin and hygiene is of utmost importance.

Choosing grooming products is a highly personal decision, but a few ground rules and a bit of advice can lead the aspiring gentleman down the path of good choices. No man will be able to explore all there is to sample in these areas of men’s care, so use this peek at the Modern Urban Gentleman’s shelf to serve as a launching pad for your own exploration. Share your experiences and recommendations in the comments below.

 

Shampoo/Conditioner

There are countless theories about how frequently to wash one’s hair, which products to use and which to avoid, and what is an acceptable price to pay for shampoo and conditioner. The Modern Urban Gentleman goes simple with these items, using a combined shampoo/conditioner from Dove. Different men have different needs, in terms of volume control and moisture content, so your mileage may vary.

Recommended product(s): Dove Men+Care Fresh Clean Fortifying 2-in-1 ($4)

Body wash

The cleansing of the body, an ancient and sometimes spiritual ritual, is fertile ground for a boxers-or-briefs level debate between advocates of body wash and proponents of bar soap. This gentleman was raised on bar soap and was loath to loosen his grip on his Zest, but making the switch to a body gel had no psychological aftereffects. It seems the pendulum has swung in recent years in favor of body wash among most cultured men. As with hair, different physiologies require different qualities in a cleanser. In the case of the Modern Urban Gentleman, dry skin is a frequent problem, so moisture is paramount.

Dove Men+Care Fresh Awake body and face wash with Micromoisture ($5)

Face wash

While the Fresh Awake body wash recommended above can also serve as a face wash, the face is worthy of special treatment to combat acne, blackheads, and other unpleasantness. The dividing line in face washes is the inclusion of microbeads. The tiny, abrasive balls give a feeling of extra cleanliness, but are they truly cleaning better than a simple wash? If the gentleman has not had the microbead experience, try Every Man Jack, a favorite throughout the men’s health scene.

Every Man Jack face scrub in signature mint ($6), Nivea Men original moisturizing face wash ($5), Neutrogena Men invigorating face wash ($6)

Shaving products

When a gentleman takes a blade to his face, he had best invest in top quality tools — and that may include some he never even knew existed. The Modern Urban Gentleman officially endorses The Art of Shaving full size kit ($210), which will provide three key friction-reducing and -reparative solutions, plus a pure badger hair brush (a $180 value by itself). If the reader cobbles together his own set of shaving products, be advised: avoid aftershave with alcohol; it will sap your skin of any and all moisture and further irritate, instead of soothe, your face.

The Art of Shaving pre-shave oil ($25), The Art of Shaving shaving cream ($25), The Art of Shaving after-shave balm ($40)

Deodorant

Deodorant is a necessity, but antiperspirant can be a liability. The aluminum compound found in most every antiperspirant on the market interacts with the oils of a man’s body to stain the underarm of his clothes. (Check your “white” undershirts for evidence.) The Modern Urban Gentleman has found the best antiperspirants to be general physical fitness and a seasonally appropriate wardrobe, while the best deodorant comes down to pure personal preference.

Old Spice fresh collection, Fiji ($4)

Moisturizing face lotion

Gentlemen, aftershave is not enough. Shave, get dressed, then return to the bathroom to apply a moisturizing face lotion. After all, the aftershave did nothing to help your dry forehead, and the tender skin of the neck can use some H2O reinforcement. Face lotion is also a perfect delivery system for daily sunscreen protection without the slimy hands or boardwalk smells.

Neutrogena Men triple protect face lotion with sunscreen SPF 20 ($7), Nivea Men original protective lotion broad spectrum SPF 15 sunscreen ($6)

Hair styling product

Upon the advice of Ms. Brittany, his official hair stylist, the Modern Urban Gentleman uses a texturizer to mold his daily coiffure. Seek the input of your own stylist, whom you surely acquired after our previous hair care discussion.

Mitch by Paul Mitchell Reformer strong hold/matte finish texturizer ($20)

Cologne

Gentlemen, did you know your girlfriend’s favorite girly lotion store also sells men’s products? Bath & Body Works dedicates one of its shelves to the skin care of the less fair sex, including offering the wares of the oldest apothecary in the United States, Greenwich Village’s C. O. Bigelow. No more hiding in the Verizon store next door while she hunts down the Sweet Pea body lotion. The Barber cologne in elixir black is a fine aroma, though its spray mechanism requires special measures to avoid over-scenting. The 2.5 ounces will last months.

This gentleman has never gone in for high-priced designer colognes but scored a free sample of Versace Eros. The scent is tantalizing and has lived up to the potentiality of its name. Your wife can purchase it, along with your Art of Shaving kit, at Ulta.

Versace Eros (1.7 oz for $62), C. O. Bigelow Barber cologne, elixir black (2.5 oz for $20)

 

That list may look daunting, but once the gentleman has made all the proper purchases and set the routine, the hygiene and maintenance become a relaxing custom. Not only will you feel better about yourself, knowing your skin is clear and moist and your scent is alluring to all, but others will appreciate your efforts as well.